18 th MAY 2010

Q : Daddy, What do u do when I go to school?

The hardest questions

I love that Celmi asks lot of questions these days... I love that she's thinker who processes her world in thoughtful ways, and wants to understand the how and why behind the what... But it's scary to think about those questions tht can come... I'm less worried about embarrassing questions or silly questions, and more concerned about values-based questions which, with the wrong answer, can confuse her..We want to answer her honestly as much as we can.. yes, we want Celmi to believe a lot of what we believe. But we also want her to believe it because she has thought it through and it makes sense to her.. Not just because we've told her it's so..
I suppose all I can do is what I'm doing now--let her know what we believe, answer her questions as honestly as I can, and let her know that she can always talk to me about any subject at all...

Dear World 2012...

I'm sure many of guys already know what's happening with our world right now. Need I say more.. I seriously hope for the best for the coming years. The belief tht world may end in 2012 is really getting to me... I didnt know it had a theory behind it. I usually try to not to watch on tv or read about our worlds natural disasters... Ignorant? Maybe... But also because I'm scared. Scared to see reality. Scared to know what's really happening. Scared that it'll one day be me.
But finally yesterday I got the guts to look at what's really happening. After looking at all the images of the situation in Japan I finally realised what I have...How much my family and friends would mean to me. How I should appreciate each and every moment of my life... Why am I crying because things never work out the way they do?..Comparative to the people who are suffering from such physical and mental trauma, my imperfections in life are nothing.
All these tragedies are making me have mixed feelings... We've come a long way... We're not perfect.. we're still learning.
So please spare us. God Bless everyone of us. Know that there are still people who care and believe....I still believe we have a future. 2012 is going to be a new beginning not an ending... I believe that we, human beings, are growing to be better people each day...I believe for the best for the years to come.

why is it necessary to have second baby... is your life incomplete if you don't have second child? i'm not being sarcastic... i really want to know? maybe i'll feel different in the future but right now i have no desire to have second one. my mother obviously will not understand when i tell her that i may not want to have more children at all. so i give her logical arguements.
My arguement to my mother for not having more children right now is..... dont have enough money - and the response is... paida to karo, paisay mil jaingay. seriously?? maybe i should go and find myself the biggest most expensive house in Mumbai and say that i have chosen to live here, doesnt matter if i have the money or not, paisa to mil jaingay, ghar to lo pehlay. sheesh. the next arguement.... i don't have time in my life right now for children,.....life is just too busy and i would not be able to satisfactorily dedicate the time needed to raise two children. my mother's response.... ohooo... to hum kis leeyay hain, tum paida to karoo, mein sambhal loon gi. seriously???? why would i want to put my body through 9 months of hell only to hand over the damn thing to someone else to raise?? why don't i just make myself a house, spend time money and effort to make a house that is mine and then i'll just hand it over to someone else to live in?? why have a child and then not raise it yourself? ...wooshhhh

We are busy with our lives most of the time.,,,everyone is running to be at the same spot…… Money has become very important aspect and earning it, we are at times losing out on valuable relationships. I don’t have time for my Parents who are old and are looking forward to get some amount of love and attention they invested in me... my brother and sister are all lost in their hectic schedule and so are best of my friends.. As I type this out I just wonder whether I should shut down the computer and be with my daughter because I should practice before I preach………….. but then she is off to school... So I am free to preach u…Thinking of Celmira I can not believe it I have my own baby. OH NO!!! it was not a few days ago. It has been freaking 2 and half years now. Ok! It seems just like a few days ago. I can still feel her warmth, smell the baby smell and hear her baby snore…. So my baby is turning into a fine young princess….. As days changed into months and months into years, she went on to prove to be special in everyway……. I have seen her bring out the best in people…. Even the not so good ones. She has smile and love for everyone in the world... She doesn’t know the barriers of countries, caste, color, money, status, age, etc…. . For her everyone with a ‘HI’ is a friend. Anyone with anger or scoldingl is’NO shouting please…..’. So simple is life in her terms just like her language. To be happy, sad, and angry just happens naturally. No drama. Nope… I remember her saying bye to every small thing before leaving house for her school bus..Saying sorry to a crayon for dropping it down. ….. I hope that everybody connected to her will understand her innocence and make her smile always without hurting her … even when I am not around.!

celmi inspirations..

Hi..

Assad Here.. Writing about my favorite topic.. Celmira..

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Hi Celmi,

You are such a darling. And nowadays you sing Mamma darling also, so sweetly. Its just so sweet. And now I hear thunder keeps ringing in my ears. Love you betu.

Cutie baccha, you are true inspiration for me, inspiration for so many things in life.

1) inspiration to be happy - just jumping over a stone, or just counting floors in lift, and then clapping when we reach 5th floor, its just so easy to be happy. Why do we adults complicate our lifes with our thoughts so much, its so much simple to be happy. The easiest thing for me is to think of your sweet smiling face to be v.v. Happy.. Thanks Celmira.. You are the best.

2) inspiration to love so much - and so unconditionally, even when mom or me have been strict with you, you never hurt us, you love us so much, thanks baby. Love you.

3) manners - you just pick up the good things so fast, you always say thank you, sorry, its ok, welcome, please. You never miss it, you are perfect my baby. I am learning.

4) to be good - there is no malice, you are perfect baby..


Love you soooooooo much..

I have been spending all of my time between Facebook and my daughter Celmira... Without that creative time slot to think and plan a blog post…I shall write about celmira herself...Celmira is getting thinner...anyone looking at her says that ! And why not? she hates food these days..She is developing likes & dislikes. So much so, I suspect that if she had a Facebook account she would sue Mark Zuckerberg for NOT having a ‘Dislike’ button on his website.... Anyway, as part of her growing process…she has started loving choclates.... I am glad we live in an era when choclates can be bought anywhere, and stored in the house (in a refrigerator, of course)..Celmi is just two years and six months but keeping in with the family tradition we have decided to push her into hell when she least expects it... After all, why shouldn’t we revenge what was done to us? we decide to put her in a playchool..my initial list had five play schools. After speaking to a few parents, reading up the internet on playschools in Dubai…I finalized the TWO semifinalists..World Nursery and Happy kids nursery..Let me tell you that education being the money churner that it is, even the Principals are trained to ensure the right image is conveyed to the parents...When we finally decided on the school after 6 months of research I started hating the life I had been chasing so far..so fast..so useless. Don’t believe me? Try making a conversation with a Principal of a Playschool... Now, don’t you go around sleeping around for a child…just pretend that you already have one and call up a play school..!!! To cut the long story short, we were impressed with both playschools and decided to decide together....I told Assad,Celmi's future relies on this decision…please don’t take this lightly. What she become 25 years later depends on this…now tell me which school will you want her to go to...The sad part about being the parent is that you have to make all the decisions and then kids blame parents for everything ! so finally we decide on World nursery.. September 5, 2010 will be Celmi's first day in her play school... Yes, the girl whose birth her parents proudly announced, the girl who taught her parents how to shop when she was just two days old, the girl who was her mother's first walking partner, the girl who is her father’s princess, and the girl who has taught us so many things…will be starting school in few days... Wish her luck.