I’m now back from my long and much needed vacation . I travelled to Mumbai for my little sis wedding.... and have tons of pictures to share with you....I have to say that I enjoyed myself and am ready to get back in gear now...Now I'm back on posting!.....where did winters go?....winters has going by...its january already!.... when did this happen? i didnt even notice winters go by! mentally im still in november or something..... i feel like i missed out on winters comletely.... maybe it was because i hardly got to see and feel the winters....no boots and leather jackets...no bbq...no camping!!! anyways the next person to ask me when i m planning to have next baby or wen i am planning to get back to job is gonna get a slap. i swear. just try it....

what a couple of days!!!...Itz been 4 days now since I have come for my sis wedding to Mumbai...everyday i s so exciting with shopping and all....But I miss my husband...it is amazing how i had started taking him granted having him around, but today I am missing Assad terribly..I am here blogging instead of going to bed...I want to talk to him longer than few minutes here and there instead of worrying about my moile bills...I want to share every details of my day with him..I stay busy and look forward to smallest things to make myself forget that i miss him...but i still do miss him!...i want to hold his hand wen he comes back from office..i want to see him playing with Celmira even after a tiring day for him....How much i miss my routine life back home!!! Plain and simple i am missing him...how much i wish he could come with us...because waiting is how i love him right now..!

“Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting”
- Emmet Fox

Criticising others is a tricky business because people are rarely receptive to criticism.... However, there are ways to point out mistakes to others rather than constantly criticizing of making fun of others... But, whilst it can be important to point out the mistakes of others...., it is equally important that we avoid becoming a full time critic....!!! If we spend all our energy on judging and criticising others we will just become a negative person and do nothing to effect real change.some people are apt to criticise unnecessarily.... It is as if we are drawn to the faults of others and forget the good things they do.... It is also important to avoid feeling responsible for the way others lead their lives...!

Why it is good to avoid criticising others?

- When we criticise others, we often have the same fault in our own nature.

- Criticising others very rarely inspires them to change.

- Citicising about others brings out the worst in ourself. It gives us a negative frame of mind

Criticising others, gives us a sense of pride and superiority.

I know a lot of people who want to feel superior to other people by making fun of others or critising...That doesn’t make sense to me!!!

Well...I am out on a vaccation to Mumbai for a month....So C ya sooon....

This is about a fortnight ago... People who I don't really know,
making rude comments....A random conversation between me and a***...
Now who's this a***??? she is friend of my friend whom i had met for
the first time today..
Here we are group of friends chilling out together...i took celmira to
feed her dinner...and..
A*** : does celmira eat properly?
Her son is 3 months older to celmira but looks much younger to her...
So she is worried about his eating habbits...
Me : oh yes... She eats properly.. I dont give her to munch in
between, so she has her dinner properly..
A*** : anyways even if you dont give celmira one time meal it will be
ok looking at her health..
Now I am shocked... How can someone be so rude!
Me: but celmira has always been healthy...
A*** : i think kids should not be fat at this age..
Now i m angry.. And i just walk out of there..
The reason why I remembered this incidence is because i will be
meeting her again tomorrow and i dont know how should i react to this
rude mannerless lady!!!
I guess I wanted to do this post because I really don't like to hear
those things. These type of comments stress me out and are
embarrassing and hurtful toward my daughter... I just don't get it -
maybe I've just lived a sheltered life surrounded by positive people?
Maybe my parents and the parents of my friends taught us right?But
there's just no excuse for rudeness...there is something wrong with
her basic education..I would love to know what provokes people to do
these things - to deliberately say something mean or nasty or hurtful
or just plain rude to someone...
Maybe I'm overly sensitive ... Especially towards my daughter..!.I
felt like I've been punched in the stomach. ..I am really confused as
to how should i react to her...

when good friends go...

There’s been a handful of times when I’ve had to cut people off intentionally for one reason or another...... Most of the time relationships fade naturally, people aren’t necessarily in your “friend” category anymore, but there’s no weirdness behind it either and you have good feelings toward them.... But then there’s times where you have to decide to cut off with people on purpose....It’s pretty easy to break-up with a casual friend.... Breaking-up with a good friend is much harder.... You invested a lot of time and effort into this person.... They know things about you that not everyone knows.... and you genuinely feel like something would be missing without this person in your life.....People change and sometimes it’s not for the better..... We all go through highs and lows and part of having good friends is being there for each other..... You accept your friends when they miserable and you try to help them and be there as you would want them to be there for you..... But sometimes people can be mean and there are just some things in friendship that are unacceptable..... As much as most of us wish we could exist in peace with the people in our lives, there will always be individuals we dislike..... Some simply rub us the wrong way while others do it deliberately....Hopefully no really good friends ever go out of my life...

well...today wanna share one story with you all...
its about 3 months back...we had just moved to this new place..and there was lot of unpacking to do...assad left for office in morning and i decided not to go back to sleep. Before celmira wakes up i should finish most of the work..i took advantage of some peace and quiet and decided to have my morning tea sitting in my balcony. i remember hearing the door shut behind me...but then nothing of it until 15 minutes later when i decide to head back into the house and the door is not just shut but it was locked!..i kept shaking the door to see if it was just very tight but it was locked.....Shit Shit Shit...what to do???....celmira was all alone sleeping inside the bedroom..i didn't have my cell phone with me too...now i was sweating ..fear of getting locked outside with a soaring temperature of 35 degrees...i was also worried if celmira would wake and not see me around and she would try and come out of her cot....i could see no one on the road down my balcony...it was almost 15 minutes now i was locked out..then i saw a african man down...i waved him...and he came running down my balcony ...but he was not able to understand english...and there i am standing locked in my balcony...making all type of actions to make him understand that i was locked and you please call my husband who had just left for work....finally he left to call assad...and le...for more 15 minutes i am waiting for him to come back and tell me if he spoke to assad...but i could se him no more...i was feeling hopeless...now i was in tears...then i saw 2 indian men walking down...i conveyed them my misery and they finally called assad and told him the story..there i saw this african guy comming bcak..he told me that he too spoke to my husband and he is on the way...ok!!!...i was relieved that assad would come and get me out of here...o shit then it struck how will he come inside the house..i have locked the door from inside...that means assad will have to break the door..damn...that means more 1 or 2 hrs...what if celmira wakes up before that!!!...i was crying and crying....then i saw assad down my balcony ..he was too worried about celmira...then we decide that he should call up some lock and key wala...who would break the lock and then he would enter my house and get me out of here...so he called up that guy who said it will take him 1 hr to come ...we had no option...we had to just wait and wait...everything was silient ..i was trying to hear if celmira had woke up...was she crying...but nothing...then suddenly i saw this stranger face suddenly opening my balcony door with celmira in his arms....oooh....who was he?,....how did he manage?...yipppie...i was rescued....i came inside the house and was hugging celmira tightly and crying....that stranger was one of the cleaners in my building who had managed to enter through my kitchen window which was luckily opened...he was an angel sent by god....finally i was inside my house and celmira was fine...wenever i remember this incidence..it gives me a goose bumps...yet we dont how did the door got damn locked...still wenever i go in my balcony i never pull the door behind me....

First few words...

Celmira is now 18 months old...me and assad have listed her first few words in all these months....
daddy
mamma
two
three...ofcourse without saying one: )
boo ( book)
tyre
bappa (backpack)
dawa (medicine)
dauwraa (dora the cartton character)
pa( pani)
yes
no
come
tata
bye
hi
allah
shoe
hish (fish)
chuchu (susu)
baby
coco (chochlate)
babbu (bubbles)
yummmy
here
there
eyesh (eyes)
dada
dadi
nana
nani
chochu (chachu)
bhauu (dog)
meow (cat)
cow
bollly (ball)
e( alphabet E )
do (give)
lo (take)
khao (eat)
aaja (come)
......and like any cute toddler she answeres to few questions..here's it...
what is your name?
memmmi (celmi)
what does santaclaus do?
hooooo hoooo hoooo
what does johny do?
hooo hooo hoooo
where is light?
there...(showing her fingers up )
where is celmira?
here (showing herself)

she surprises us by learning new words everyday...